Many years ago, I was very fortunate to have worked for a very loving boss who encouraged and guided me. One of the best things she ever did for me, among many, was she gave me the book Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss by Hope Edelman. Hope Edelman, has written a book that explains the stages of grief and shows the reader that no matter what age you were or how old your mom was when she died, you will always miss your mom. You are not alone in this journey.
As a woman without a mother, there are numerous times in my life that I have painfully felt the absence of my mom. Unless you go through it, you really can’t understand what it feels like. One of the hardest parts is the feeling of isolation.
It took me over a year to read this book. I could barely make it through a chapter without breaking down. There were so many times that I thought I would never finish it. Each chapter would bring up feelings that I had buried so deeply.
After a little time would pass and I had sufficient time to mull over my thoughts and feelings, I would find myself picking up the book again. A year may seem like a long time to read a book, but considering the journey, its actually not very long.
What I took away from this book has transformed my life. I know without a doubt that I am a better person, a better wife and a better mother because I read this book. I also believe that I got so much from this book by taking my time in reading it and REALLY absorbing all of the information and taking the time to work through the feelings that arose.
If you know of any daughter that has lost their mother, this book is an absolute must. Don’t want to take just my word… read the article “My Mama Aha Moment” on Hybrid Mom. The writer shares how this book has affected her, too.