Motherless Daughter

Many years ago, I was very fortunate to have worked for a very loving boss who encouraged and guided me. One of the best things she ever did for me, among many, was she gave me the book Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss by Hope Edelman. Hope Edelman, has written a book that explains the stages of grief and shows the reader that no matter what age you were or how old your mom was when she died, you will always miss your mom. You are not alone in this journey.

As a woman without a mother, there are numerous times in my life that I have painfully felt the absence of my mom. Unless you go through it, you really can’t understand what it feels like. One of the hardest parts is the feeling of isolation.

It took me over a year to read this book. I could barely make it through a chapter without breaking down. There were so many times that I thought I would never finish it. Each chapter would bring up feelings that I had buried so deeply.

After a little time would pass and I had sufficient time to mull over my thoughts and feelings, I would find myself picking up the book again. A year may seem like a long time to read a book, but considering the journey, its actually not very long.

What I took away from this book has transformed my life. I know without a doubt that I am a better person, a better wife and a better mother because I read this book. I also believe that I got so much from this book by taking my time in reading it and REALLY absorbing all of the information and taking the time to work through the feelings that arose.

If you know of any daughter that has lost their mother, this book is an absolute must. Don’t want to take just my word… read the article “My Mama Aha Moment” on Hybrid Mom. The writer shares how this book has affected her, too.

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3 comments on “Motherless Daughter
  1. Lin says:

    Sooooo proud of you to continue to read the book and grow and become the daughter, wife and Mother you are today!!! Good thoughts are always rewarding!!!

    ” In the joy of little things, the heart finds it’s morning and is refreshed”
    This is a quote that helped me so much during my early motherhood years, “my learning curve”…. but still full of richness for me today!!!

    We love you…XO Aunt Lin

  2. I was gonna buy this book but my mother didn’t die, she left. But I feel for you and I understand the void of not having a mother. I felt it more during my wedding day and planning the wedding, and I’m sure I will feel it when I have children as well. I really loved your critique of the book, and I think your website has a lot of valuable information on. Keep it up!

  3. Wendy says:

    This book would be really good for you, too. Its not just for mom’s that have died. They have sections on mom’s that are not there due to drugs, incarceration and illness. Its a very powerful book. If you get a chance, you really should pick it up.

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